What are the common characteristics of girls who are suitable for marriage?

What kind of woman is suitable for marriage? This is what I want to tell you today. To be precise, looking for a marriage partner is ...

What kind of woman is suitable for marriage? This is what I want to tell you today.

To be precise, looking for a marriage partner is quite contrary to the "sister flirting" we usually teach you.

Why do you say that?

No matter how we sing about love, we must be clear: the essence of love is a game between the sexes.

The exchange of values, the push and pull of emotions, the establishment of frameworks... etc. When you learn to flirt with girls, what you learn is how to become a winner in a relationship.

There are no winners in marriage.

Love is a game, marriage is not.

Because husband and wife are a community of interests.

A man and a woman have a meal and pay the bill. If the man pays the bill, then they are in a relationship, and if the woman pays the bill, then they are in a husband and wife relationship - this is the truth.

For couples who have just fallen in love, girls will be complacent that their boyfriends spend generously on themselves, but if you get married, try buying 999 roses for your wife?

"Damn, what are you doing wasting money to buy so many flowers, say, did you do something wrong!"

When you have a "game" relationship with her, you spend money on yourself, and what she gets is value.

When you and her become a "community", your money is your family's money, and naturally it is also her money. You waste her own money to buy roses for her. Do you think she is distressed?

Well, to understand this truth, let's talk: what kind of woman is suitable for marriage?

One of the essential qualities of a marriage partner: good education

I very much agree with the sentence, you are looking for your other half, not just to find your future wife, but to choose a mother for your children.

Most marriages and families actually die in the selection process.

Many men like to look for a wife with the mentality of looking for a lover and a business partner.

Some people say that I want to find a high-scoring girl with a model body as my wife.

Some people say that I want to find a rich woman and save ten years of struggle.

Big mistake!

You might as well think about what a "good mother" in your heart was like when you were a child?

I'm sure no one wants their mother to be sexy, big boobs, long legs, playful, and spend a lot of money.

Gentleness, kindness, attentiveness, consideration and tolerance are the qualities a wife and a mother should possess.

And a girl with these qualities must be a well-educated and educated girl.

How can you tell if she is educated?

This is a very big subject. In short, when you date a girl, you can basically see her upbringing from her sitting posture, the way she treats people, whether she is impatient with children and waiters, etc. . If you want to know more details about the judgment method, you can privately chat with me on WeChat at the end of the article.

Must-Have Qualities of Marriage Objects 2: Reasonable Parents

There is an old saying in China, "A country is easy to change, but one's personality is hard to change".

In fact, it is a truth in life: what is in a person's bones is difficult to change.

It is very difficult for a violent person to be truly peaceful. If one day he is very Buddhist, then there is a high probability that he is covering up something.

It's also hard for a mean person to be really generous unless he wants something from you.

And what determines a person's "disposition"?

is family.

More specifically, parents.

From the time the child opens his eyes, he will grow up under the influence of his parents for almost the first 20 years. Especially when they are young, they unconsciously imitate their parents' speech and daily behavior.

This leads to the fact that basically what kind of parents will have a high probability of raising what kind of children.

You should never try to deny this with examples like "Whoever said that, I know someone who is completely different from his parents."

We only discuss general phenomena, not individual cases.

You can recall that your elementary school classmates, your hometown's fa-journers, their personal achievements, their character traits, are not almost out of the category of their parents.

"A dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and a mouse's child will make a hole."

The old Chinese saying never lies.

Speaking of the marriage partner you are looking for, if you don't want to spend your days with a stubborn and willful woman, if you don't want your child to become irritable and willful, then once you have a relationship with someone When a girl is thinking of getting married, she might as well go to her home first and have more contact with her parents.

We don't necessarily ask others to be scholarly, but at least we must see that her parents are reasonable, polite, and peaceful.

If every time you go to her house, her mother will tell you in secret that who's son-in-law is good and generous, and her father will be drunk and scolding social injustice...

For girls who grew up in such an environment, I suggest you forget it.

It's hard to guarantee that she won't become a parent in the future.

The three essential characteristics of marriage objects: have a sense of their own people

This is also the most important point when you are looking for a marriage partner.

It's so important, if there is this, you can forget the first two points.

why?

This is to re-emphasize a truth we said before:

Between lovers is a game, husband and wife is a community of interests.

Since this is so important, your marriage is doomed to be a tragedy if your wife doesn't treat you as her "her own" and is trying to figure you out.

In the years of emotional teaching work, I have seen too many women who have no "self-awareness".

When they are in love, they always think about how to make their boyfriends invite their girlfriends to eat more meals and pay more bills, so as to make their girlfriends envious that they have found a number ATM.

After they got married, they turned to their parents in everything, thinking all day long about how to make more property in their names and how to get their husbands to seal more red envelopes for their parents.

If you just met her, it is understandable that she is closer to her parents and best friends, but if you have reached the stage of talking about marriage, you find that she has not regarded you as "her own", and always makes you pay More, then, this relationship is worth your consideration.

Here's an easy way to tell if she sees you as "her own".

You can analyze 5 decisions she made about you personally.

You need to analyze, in these 5 decisions, who are the beneficiaries and who are the losers.

The number 4 is the dividing line.

Only in these 5 decisions made by her, in which you are the beneficiary 4 times , can it be preliminarily stated that she has a "self-awareness" towards you.

If only 3 times, I suggest you keep watching.

If it is less than 3 times, even if you have suffered multiple losses, I suggest that you can break up directly without ink.

Well, the above is some advice for brothers who want to "find a reliable girlfriend" to get married. Due to space limitations, I have not written all the detailed strategies. Interested brothers can add me to chat privately.

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